The United States does provide some avenue of relief for people in abusive relationships known as the VAWA act. The abuse need not be physical and there is some legitimate discussion about what is and is not non physical abuse. A spouse that flaunts adulterous affairs and is not named Clinton qualifies under the law. It is a law with good intentions, but there are serious questions as to where we draw the line over what qualifies.
The problem is that some gays and lesbians often to not live in families that resemble Ozzie and Harriet or even the dysfunctional and borderline criminal Bundy family. The reality is that by not recognizing the reality of these relationships via Civil Union or Marriage we are forcing some people
to stay in violent relationships needlessly. The problem is also worse than one presumes because many times the gay or lesbian applicants are estranged from their families.
I am also not a fan of laws that encourage otherwise honest people to break the law because there is no legal redress. Thus an officer has to endure Will and Grace fakeries from Gays trying to remain in the USA to be with their real loved ones via fake marriages.
I am still pro civil union. Unlike some of my peers I am ready for the day when a change in the law will remedy this situation. We will judge the elements of the Union as we do for other couples
and the process won't be much different.
Officers work with the laws that are on the books.When the laws or policies change we adapt. I
would remind people that criticize the folks in AZ that the policy of benign neglect has not alleviated the problem of illegal aliens. The legal residents of Arizona have a right to enforce existing laws. Perhaps if the administration hired and deployed enough ICE agents and Immigration Judges who enforce the law the furor would die down.
Remember that all laws have consequences and human faces behind them.