The local papers in NYC ran a story about a nurse who was beaten in the bathroom by an enraged man who was upset that she refused to dance with him. As a guy the nature of our role
is we frequently get turned down for many reasons. This does not ever give one an excuse for violence, stalking or anything else.
The suspect was caught and hopefully justice will be served. However, this is NYC so expect a slap on the wrist.
In general when I was single, I had a rather clever way of weeding out the high maitenence types early. When asked I would promtly state I was a bus driver and this would get rid of snobs
early. One person found out about this trick and was very angry and confronted me. I pointed out that bus drivers in NYC earn more than social workers. Her actions told me right away that her personality and mine would clash. I did get a drink over the head for that remark, but it is better to get a drink over the head early than deal with a pain in the neck later.