I am also amazed at the same people who will remind you about racial slurs or angles will often call a gay man a faggot. I do not ever use words like the N word or faggot as they are unacceptable.Yet there are times when some coworkers are hypersensitive on race. The N word is never acceptable and nobody should ever be made to feel uncomfortable. A perfect example of this hypersensitivity was workers who felt that a waitress doted on me while ignoring my coworkers who were black. I mentioned that I eat in the place fairly often and the waitress in question was well aware that I tip very well.
Homophobia is a fact of life and the same persons who would kill a person for using the N word would freely bandy faggot. The persons who use this term were not conservative in any stretch either. Amazingly these people seem to see me on similar level terms with the Duck. I was amazed to hear myself described as a radical leftist.
Most of the times I have observed homophobia it has been guys. This is the first time I have ever observed this behavior in women. They seem to think they have gaydar and can detect a gay man on appearences or by vocation. If you heard my voice and Justin's voice and knew one of us was gay 90% would choose me as gay and be 100% wrong. We could go through vocations
Justin was in the military and I was in the fashion industry and be 100% wrong. We could stereotype based upon my Justin is a parent and I am not and be wrong. We could also point to
the fact that I enjoy Broadway, frequent art museums and have lived in a gay section of NYC and be very wrong.
When I was younger, perhaps that could have been my stupidity. Over time my life has changed me and I am happy to have become saner as I aged. I honestly do not care who does what to whom as long as children and I are left out and all participants consent. Living next door to a gay
man did not change my life. He was a fine person in all respects. I also knew plenty of heterosexual pattern makers.
Sex and love mean different things to different people. I am convinced that some of us over emphasize its importance. I have known a few women who do have real versions of the relationship portrayed in Will and Grace. These odd relationships often go on for years. Some of these couples even get married.
I have been mistaken for gay several times. I do not get offended by this as I never considered this to be an insult. The part that bothers me is the hate that accompanied it. No doubt my saying I wish you wouldn't use that term will get me labeled again. I would have said similar words at the use of the N word or calling woman a slang word for sex organs and am neither black or female.
At least my version of expressing my disapproval was mild. I wish you wouldn't use that term is much better than the long winded lectures I got. I got one of these lectures from a novice who never worked a day in the field. This person went on to have a similar fight with one of the mentors.
Sometimes I seriously wonder if we as a society too much importance on gender, race and orientation. I am aware of what the scripture says about homosexuality. I do point out that there
are many other sins as well and failure is part of the human condition.