I am saddened by what appears to be another tragedy at a club in NYC. People go to these clubs are more often than not the wrong people. I dreaded going there with coworkers as I wouldn't go alone.
I hear the familiar complaint from my female coworkers that there aren't nice guys out there. They are out there, but you need to do your homework. Ask friends, family and coworkers as they know more than one will find in a club. If he is over 40 you may need to be more assertive and patient. He may have had a few bad relationships and has stopped looking. Treat the search as if you are looking for a new job. Learn to read his body language and eyes.
The clubs are filled with empty vain people. Things are not what they seem and people
believe too easily. I was supposed to go with my coworkers on Friday. However, when a man has a soul mate such places are wastes of time.