Many of us talk about behaviors that are maladaptive in terms of inner city residents. Those that are familiar with people unemployed for decades who live on the phone and have no concept of time are familiar to any resident of a large city. Basically, many of the same inner city pathologies are found in the lives of the ultra orthodox minus the promiscuity and drugs. There is no excuse for a person with an accounting degree to be unemployed for 25 years. I want to be sympathetic, but I notice their equally pious relatives never seem to be troubled by these annoying visits.
Far too often the religious use this piousness as a crutch for abnormal behaviors. When you point out that mendicant relative A has been unemployed for two decades you get a lecture. When they drop in at the last second and stay for the whole summer you get a lecture. When they intrude into your personal life you get more lectures.
Now it may be true that these are just annoying people who happen to be religious. However, years of boorish behavior are just too much. I have never cared for these relatives, but this summer it turned to hate.