Tuesday, September 04, 2007

An Apology to the Readers

I decided not to run a small interview with Rav Roov over the appoaching Jewish Holidays. The Rav was generous enough to provide his time and some interesting answers. However, a certain party felt the cumpulsion to edit his responses. In this case the edit was over a single word. However, I am exceedingly peeved in the notion that this individual feels a need to censor or approve every comment he makes.

As a general rule I will only run the responses of the parties interviewed for better or worse unedited. In fact I refused to even read his responses as I am interested in his thoughts, not that of the editor.

It is rare that I am angered enough to walk out of the house, especially in the presence of my beloved younger brother whom I rarely see. Rather than say words I would regret I went out for a five mile walk. My anger at the situation was resolved by eliminating the interview. I also will not be spending any part of the holidays with Rav Roov. I find the entire episode offensive
and rather than say a words I would later regret avoid the subject at all.

I do love the beloved Rav Roov, but there is a reason my visits are infrequent. I have always respected and supported him in his choice to lead a very different life from my own. All of us have limits to what we can or can not deal with. Sadly, patience has never been one of my qualities. Also remember the old adage advice is worth what you paid for it. Sadly there are people who are experts in everything and feel a need to lecture others. This unwanted advice is of a vocational matters. People who have no clue as to what I do for a living and have marginal careers need to refrain from career advice. Rather, than say regretable words I walked away.

There will be no additional interviews with Rav Roov going forward. The Rav as always is a valued family member. It is possible to read too much and too little into this particular post.
Maybe I should have remained in VT.


The Merry Widow said...

Sometimes family relationships improve with distance. Because when you do get together, it is about seeing each other and loving each other, being close geographically...well, both sides start taking each other for granted.
Tell Rav Roov that if he has concerns about you, take them to G*D and let HIM worry about it! Then he can concentrate on being your brother.
Good morning, G*D bless and Maranatha!

Boundaries are wonderful things.

nanc said...

this is disturbing.

Ducky's here said...

Blood is blood, Beak. I'd say you have to have much better reasons to get this upset.

Simply inform him that there are topics that should be left alone unless you ask for advice.

Anonymous said...

Family can be frustrating at times. I know from personal experience, sometimes its better to just walk away and let bygones be bygones.

Anonymous said...


Anonymous said...

There's no place like home. ;-)

beakerkin said...

All Rav Roov is a valued family member. Allegedly only one word was changed. I opted not to even read the interview. I do not want my brothers words edited. The subject was hardly controversial either.

My brother is a good man, but I could not deal with this. Maybe because he works next door in NYC we can have a simple conversation without intrusion.

Ducky the blow up was a long time commining. This was just added problems and I can't go into it.

sonia said...

If I understand you correctly, your brother's wife (or someone else close to him) objected to what he wrote in the interview.

If I were you, I would run the interview and identify the word that was censored.

I am sure your brother would forgive you...

beakerkin said...


You have the general idea. However, I refused to read an edited interview. The topic itself was not controversial. However, I have decided for better reasons to make myself scarce.

My brother works next door so we will talk at work free of interjections. I can not even have the most basic of conversations without some aggrivation.

The Merry Widow said...

Good grief! Sometimes spouses of both persuasions need to leave the room and be quiet. Coming between family members is NOT always a good idea, let them hash it out.
Like Kenny Rogers' song;
gotta know when to hold 'em,
know when to fold 'em,

Good morning, G*D bless and Maranatha!