There are those who live in fantasy worlds of simplicity. In these fantasy worlds domestic violence is a heterosexual thing. This may appear so because there are more heterosexual couples but domestic violence is a human issue and does happen to gay couples.
Kwame Harris had a reputation for being strange when he played in the NFL. He was from Stanford and very bright. He was drafted high and did not exactly have a great career. Now out off the police blotter is a bizarre fight over underwear and soy sauce that resulted in a hospitalization.
Domestic violence doesn't fit into a neat box. Kwame Harris may indeed be strange, but it likely has nothing to do with his orientation or intelligence. Domestic violence can occur in penhouses, housing projects, religious sects, communist cults, housing projects, agrarian communities or suburbia.
In general we have to grasp that violence on a personal level is just unacceptable. If you are really that upset just walk away and don't return. The only time personal violence is acceptable is to save lives from criminals or in service for your country.
As I age the small stuff like the clown who has been lifting one or two of my Mountain Dew's from the refrigerator go. Life is too short to waste energy on small things.
The next time you get upset walk away. You can buy another bowl of rice or pair of underwear. You can't buy self respect or dignity. It would be great to see one of these out of control celebrities say I was out of control there was no excuse for my behavior and I am going into therapy without a PR strategist pointing the way.