Monday, February 23, 2009

The best three months of my life

I love Sunbeam with all my heart and it will be three months. She is everything I ever dreamed of and more giving, loving, brilliant, witty and at time fiery. I consider myself to be lucky such a beautiful and wonderful person shares my life.

Dating a single mother in year one of a divorce is not easy. I used to think I arrived too early and that my presence complicated things. I deal with the difficulties as they arise. Children and a bad divorce are never easy, but each and every day I do my best. Sometimes being there with an ear or a shoulder is enough. Other times I have to
fight my male inclination to try and fix things. Sometimes I step on toes by accident and it is rough on Sunbeam. She has the patience of a saint, but sometimes is a bit competitive with me.

I have my own madness and experiences. They are different from hers, but in the end I always do the right thing. She does have a point that there are lots of vegetarians, so the behavior of some maladjusted types shouldn't freak me out. I also tried to explain dating is also personal choice. There have been some angry with me because I chose Sunbeam over a younger woman from another race. There are some who will not date people of other religions or smokers. Thus the horror and anger I got for stating I would never start a relationship with a vegetarian took me by surprise. I bond through food and a person who could not share those experiences
would be missing out on a lot.

I do realize that vegetarians are a wide group. I have dated religious vegetarians
and it was no big deal as it was a given. When we move away from religious convictions I get nervous. Sunbeam assures me there are those who just dislike meat
and the notion of eating something that was alive. I understand that may the case in some instances, but in others I see high maintenance, control and people who idealize animals. FYI Fido and Fluffy are carnivores so feeding them anything other than meat is a form of cruelty to animals.

I have explored the themes of why some people do not like to be around vegetarians
and most of it is social skills. Nor should this be taken to say every person who doesn't eat meat is a boor. However, if you have observed people who behave like this let me know.

1 Some vegetarians are self righteous. You have your convictions please respect mine. I really do not want to hear about your morality and do not even try and impose it on me.

2 Please do not impose your will on the majority every time we socialize. One vegetarian should not set the social calendar of six meat eaters. This actually did happen and an occasional accommodation is different from catering.

3 Some vegetarians are manipulative. On more than one occasion I was promised sexual favors for not eating meat. Sorry, the human body is meat itself and I will never give in to that type of coercion.

4 Please do not ask for an ingredient list or piss off the wait staff. Just ask what vegetarian options exist.

This is a partial list and Sunbeam was right it is wrong to stereotype a wide range of people as maladjusted because of many bad experiences. Still I am a bit leery with non religious vegetarians. Simply put nobody really cares if you don't like meat
just do not inconvence others greatly and spare me the morality lectures.

Beamish in 12, Renegade Eye to North Korea and Ducky to Bible Camp.

Ducky the communist manifesto is not part of the bible.

4 comments:

The Pagan Temple said...

There are only two different groups of people whom I could never date, under any circumstances whatsoever-smokers and non-smokers.

John said...

I have my own madness and experiences. They are different from hers, but in the end I always do the right thing. She does have a point that there are lots of vegetarians, so the behavior of some maladjusted types shouldn't freak me out. I also tried to explain dating is also personal choice. There have been some angry with me because I chose Sunbeam over a younger woman from another race.

Brooke said...

..."just do not inconvence others greatly and spare me the morality lectures."

When I find a vegetarian that can do this, I'll let you know.

Ducky's here said...

I have my own madness and experiences. They are different from hers, but in the end I always do the right thing.
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You still have your own madness, Beak. Clearly.