People fail to grasp that if I am really upset, I stop talking. After certain lines are crossed I move on and have nothing to do with the annoyance. Fighting is just a waste of time and when bothered it is just better to go elsewhere.
At work the person next door has constant coffee clatches. In general, I am quite tolerant until the ring leader of the gang that bullied me showed up. I addressed the matter politely and were this mere passing through it would not concern me. The issue was multiple daily visits that last an hour or more and are not work related.
I pointed out my concern and got a lecture. My response to the lecture was you are 100% correct. However, as my space is next door I can decide what to do with it as well. Kindly, don't talk to me or ask for help. This person did ask for help multiple times and as a peer, I don't mind helping out. However, don't ask me for help and make my area into a mess.
Now I keep my door locked at all times. I discourage visitors and prefer to do my job in peace. I am still the same sweet guy to the public. However, I really prefer to hang with the old timers who grasp the full history in our area.