I made the decision to finalize the end of my relationship with the frummies. Over time the distance grew larrger. My brother became a lousy person who pretends to be decent. The talmud talks of law. It doesnt explain that things may be legal but come with consequences. The original friction was over his month long summer visits which grated on my parents. As he is religious and holier than thou they couldnt tell him a week was enough. I spoke to him and he was nasty lied twisted facts around. I slept near the boiler for weeks and never spoke at all. My sister asked about it. He is there because he wants to be there. On top of this his unemployed wife does laundry at 3AM multiple times invading my refuge. Eventually I left and my visits to my parents were rare because he would show up and annoy me. On times in hospitals he would be late and his imbecile frum wife would follow me through the hospital. I want to be clear late with the frummies is six hours or more. All that matters is their lifestyle. My family has been wiped out by the virus. He calls in tears wanting to apologize for whatever. I agreed to a meeting. He then drops a legal bombshell that everyother surving sibling objects to. However fighting his latest indanity would be ruinous. I explained clearly and simply do this and its over. He does it and then claims miscommunication. When that doesnt work tears invoking the dead. He probably has a Oiugee Board because he rationalizes everything based upon the will of the deceased.My parents found it easier to lean on me because he never budges and invokes god or gives an inch. They could tell me stand down but never the frummies because God blesses their excesses. My brother accepted my request for privacy and distance. Amusingly he reminds me its a two way deal. I think I might have called a member of his family five years ago. My brothers failures are many. His stuborness, greed and lack of concern have destroyed what remains of our family. He never learned to compromise or respect others. He spent too much time with dusty religious texts and not enough time talking social science classes. I am angered enough by his selfish behavior that even in death he shall bother me no more. My funeral instructions are no words, no music. Just shovels and nature. Those of us witg frum relatives unerstand the slings and arrows of frumkeit. I actually prefer hardcore alcoholics to frummies. They manipulate less and are easier than frummies. Good luck. Please dont visit. No apologies wanted. Just be on your way and dont return.